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April 30, 2015<\/strong>
\n Thursday<\/strong><\/p>\n

Today is the 100th anniversary of the birth of Eva Petrucci DeAngelis, mother of my husband, Ron DeAngelis, and grandmother of my daughter, Lynn DeAngelis April. In August, she’ll be gone ten years. As tribute and remembrance, here is the eulogy I spoke for her at her funeral. (Eva married Tony DeAngelis on October 30<\/p>\n

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Eulogy Spoken for
\nEva Petrucci DeAngelis
\nby
\nMargaret Yakimoff DeAngelis
\nAugust 22, 2005
\n\"EvaWho can find a virtuous woman? asks Proverbs 31. Those of us who knew Eva Petrucci DeAngelis had certainly found one.<\/p>\n

She was born in 1915, the oldest of four children of Italian immigrant parents. She graduated from high school, married young, worked in her husband\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s family business, and later in the town\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s family business, the office of the chocolate company. She kept her rosary in her purse beside her Tic-Tacs, both of which, I am told, she used daily. Like the woman described in Proverbs, she rose while it was yet night and provided food for her household. She opened her hand to the poor, she opened her mouth with wisdom, and she did not eat the bread of idleness. When we talk about what made America great in the first half of the twentieth century, it is people like Eva, and Tony, and Flash, and Ezenne, that we mean.<\/p>\n

She was 67 years old when I met her. I married her son somewhat late in my life, and produced her fourth grandchild. My daughter, Lynn, was blood of her blood, but Eva treated me as if I were as well. When she was 75 she accompanied Lynn and my niece and me on a day at Hershey Park. After about five hours of rides and shows and park snack food, she announced that she needed to be getting home, because she and Tony were going out to dinner. As I prepared to gather up the girls so I could drive her, she stopped me. \u00e2\u20ac\u0153Oh, I don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t want you to lose your parking space,\u00e2\u20ac\u009d she said. \u00e2\u20ac\u0153I can walk.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d And she did, two miles. On my best day then I couldn\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t have done that, and I don\u00e2\u20ac\u2122t expect to be doing it when I\u00e2\u20ac\u02dcm 75 either.<\/p>\n

On another such day out and about together, after we\u00e2\u20ac\u2122d dropped Eva off at home, Lynn turned to me in the car and said dreamily, \u00e2\u20ac\u0153I just love Grandma.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d Because I was fond of probing my five-year-old\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s mind, I asked her, \u00e2\u20ac\u0153Why do you love Grandma?\u00e2\u20ac\u009d Lynn looked at me, perhaps for the first time but certainly not for the last, as if I were incredibly thick, and said, \u00e2\u20ac\u0153Because she\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s Grandma!\u00e2\u20ac\u009d<\/p>\n

And that\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s why I loved her, too. She was a woman of courage, and a woman of peace. She had a habit of prayer in which she sought to know the will of God for her life and to carry it out with grace and good cheer. She was a great model to me of acceptance and forbearance. In the last decade of her life she buried her husband, her brother, two sisters, and a number of her friends. She moved from her own home to an assisted living facility and finally to a nursing home. In none of these losses did she complain.<\/p>\n

In recent weeks she would say to visitors, \u00e2\u20ac\u0153I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m glad you came by. I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m going home soon.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d We took that as a sign of an increasing loss of orientation in time and space. Last Thursday she said to one of her dearest friends, \u00e2\u20ac\u0153I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m glad you came by. You know, I\u00e2\u20ac\u2122m going home tomorrow.\u00e2\u20ac\u009d And so she did. And there is not a doubt in my mind that as she whispered in prayer, \u00e2\u20ac\u0153When, oh Lord?\u00e2\u20ac\u009d the answer came, \u00e2\u20ac\u0153Now,\u00e2\u20ac\u009d and her heart, forgiven, leapt into the Savior\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s welcoming arms.<\/p>\n

Eva has gone before us with the sign of faith and rests in the sleep of peace. Once, back in second grade or so, my friends and I learned that heaven consisted of one\u00e2\u20ac\u2122s being able to \u00e2\u20ac\u0153behold the beatific vision\u00e2\u20ac\u009d for eternity. We asked Sister what this meant, and she said, well, you looked at God and he looked at you, all the time. That was a bit abstract for seven-year-olds. I understand it better now, but I still want to fall back on something more concrete. So I turn to the poet E.E. Cummings, himself a man of faith, who imagined what heaven would be like for his beloved parents. The poet writes:<\/p>\n

If there are any heavens my mother will(all by herself)have
\none. It will not be a pansy heaven nor
\na fragile heaven of lilies-of-the-valley but
\nit will be a heaven of blackred roses<\/em><\/p>\n

my father will be(deep like a rose
\ntall like a rose)<\/em>standing near<\/em><\/p>\n

swaying over her. . .<\/em><\/p>\n

[whispering]
\nThis is my beloved . . .<\/em><\/p>\n

(suddenly in sunlight
\nhe will bow<\/em><\/p>\n

& the whole garden will bow)
\n<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n


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